I remember when I was a teenager, I was told that hetero guys get a single earring in their left ear. and gay guys have single earring in their right ear. guess who had a single earring pierced into her right ear! :D

It's fun to discover those "early girlfag things" that I did way before becoming aware of being one, but also I don't want to fall into the trap of manipulating my story to fit into a consistent narrative. I'm not a 100% girlfag, never was, always was a person in between labels, and that's what I will always be.

re: girlfag terminology: I'm aware "fag" is not my term to reclaim, but tbh but all the people who for decades never protested against the term "fag hag" and now are complaining about ppl using "girlfag" can fuck right off.

what bothers them is not really the terminology, but that gendequeer people who aren't really men claim a gay male identity. things are complicated, and that's not going to go away.

@distelfliege you're wrong, the issue is not transmasc people claiming a gay male identity (something they're entitled to do), the issue is reclaiming a slur that doesn't apply to them. "Fag" refers to amab queer people, period. It's not used exclusively for gay men, it's also used to insult trans women and amab nonbinary people.

"Fag hag" is used by aforementioned amab people for whom the slur is acceptable to reclaim. It's not complicated.

@noxy out of personal experience, eighter that's not the case or I'm not "transmasc" enough for that to be the case.

"fag hag" is used only by amab people? that's new to me.

@distelfliege "Fag hag" is used to refer to straight girls who cling to amab queer people, they're obnoxious as fuck. It's an in-group term that exclusively belongs to people who can reclaim the word fag. Idk how this isn't obvious.

On top of that the term "girlfag" typically means a straight girl with a gross sexual fetish for gay men, so either that's what you are or you are associating yourself with it. Not a great look either way.

@noxy you have quite a rigid definition of those terms. I've heard the "fetish" theory often, however it's too simplistic and doesn't at all represent me.

I'm not a girl and I'm not straight, I'm a genderqueer butch woman who feels her attraction to men is gay.