@eribloodlust just to clarify: I'm not arguing that "people shouldn't have to hide their grief". I'm arguing that the CW feature makes _some_ ppl "feel like they have to hide their grief" which probably is the reason for why they didn't use it. that's not condoning their not using it.
that's just trying to analyze what happened - maybe in order to find out what can be done so this doesn't have to happen next time.