👽cmdrspacebabe👽 @cmdrspacebabe@witches.town

I wonder if we can find anyone in Ottawa with girl rats with whom to breed our most handsome lad

the boys are starting to get old and look at how excellent his genes must be

he is the cuddliest, the fluffiest, the healthiest and also regularly freaks people out by being extremely large

if you live near Ottawa and have some lady rats hmu lmao https://witches.town/media/HtlTxYFS3ya8Vc4Y6wM https://witches.town/media/ECHPNP4zet3kSrZ5Cz4 https://witches.town/media/kxlen22CKevaNN5XUbY https://witches.town/media/jKBYDw2nNpcvjId9kDE

@TheOtherAMF the first book is called Freedom's Landing - it's by Anne McCaffrey. Alas, no queerness, but I GUESS it's okay anyway. :p

@Maenad @dconley @nergdron yeaaah. I mean, everything we do is about men right, obviously, duh

@kara_dreamer there is. a lot of it going on in my city's pride debate. it has... not been fun
don't you see, asking the cops not to wear uniforms is just like not letting people express their gender identity, is an actual argument that has been made

(I mean this largely in reference to the battle in my city over getting cops out of pride, but, y'know, also in general)

though I'm sure it won't take them long at all to find some new bullshit to hide behind, since it was a trans woman arrested and I'm pretty sure it was an antifa protest so I'm sure they won't give a shit

so apparently the cops arrested a (white) trans woman for filming shit at a protest or some such today, and the entire thing is clearly captured on video and it is. not good

guess the fuckin White Liberal Queers won't be able to hide behind their ~but the cops haven't done anything to LGBT people!!! just people who aren't white!!!~ bullshit anymore

@dconley I've already outright worn suits and I minimize my torso a lot and such, but my facial features and hair and general shape are not ~ambiguous~ by the standards of The Cis. Though my face is angular enough that I might be able to play around with makeup to shift a little bit.

@dconley Yeah. I like being able to dress however I want, but it would also be cool to be able to have more of an impact on the way people perceive me, I guess.

I love having a Kindle it just reminded me of a book series I really liked that I haven't read in like 10 years

I know for a fact that the badass lady main character ends up non-monogamously dating an alien so I'm sure you'd all love it

@dconley (another thing to add: the flip side to this is that if i do dress in a masculine way, you're right, it's not going to make me get misgendered any less. BECAUSE women dressing in men's clothing isn't that weird, no matter how masculine I dress, I'll still be seen as a girl unless I take some pretty drastic measures and it won't even occur to people that I might be gender-variant. whereas an AMAB in feminine clothing is far enough from the norm to be seen as... significant, I guess? but I haven't really thought that part through as much yet and that's not necessarily an advantage for AMAB people in any case)

@dconley I did my B.A in communications and sociology, so this is like, kinda my thing lmao

@dconley my brain likes to be kept busy, so I spend a looot of time working through these kinds of things to find the best ways to articulate them :p

@dconley on some level, for an AFAB person to be seen as imitating masculinity is understandable because our culture values masculinity more. why wouldn't we want to emulate it? but for an AMAB to want to express femininity is 'not understandable' because femininity isn't seen as worth having.

@dconley I've often seen it described that, for AMAB people, being 'feminine' is seen as degrading - as making themselves less-than, whereas an AFAB person 'emulating masculinity' is the opposite. If I walked into work in a binder and a men's suit, it'd be Bold and Daring and Cool. I'm allowed more space to express than AMAB people are because, on the Privilege Food Chain, I'm moving 'up' rather than 'down'.

#100selfiechallenge 7/100 in my most Relatable shirt
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@Maenad I mean I've also dated people at the same time as my partner but that stopped working around the same time I stopped having a sex drive? so I feel like they must be related somehow :p

oops looks like I basically pulled an all-nighter because suddenly it's getting light out, it's 5 am and I've been awake for 22 hours

@grime_witch I am pretty tired of just doing things because I feel like I should because It's A Thing People Do, I guess, because it seems like that's how a lot of my relationships happened even if it didn't really feel that way at the time, because romantic relationships were p much the only way I knew how to conceptualize deep emotional intimacy; which is no longer the case because I get that from friends anyway, and often in more fulfilling ways than I ever did from ~boyfriends~ or whatever bc there's no weight of expectation

@grime_witch only major dif b/t them and my Romantic Partner is that we live together/share pets and financial responsibilities, which like, ok, so do a lot of roommates, and? I can't seem to find any true qualitative difference and I just don't really care to, I'm... pretty much ok with the way I am and we are and it feels like the only reason I try to move beyond that/form new Romantic relationships is that I feel like I'm 'supposed' to