@Stoori yeah. ): I've mostly found mine through OkCupid, so they're at least local; but it's still pretty rare to find one I actually get close to and talk to consistently, and I still rarely feel comfortable in group settings unless they have a very specific low-pressure vibe.

@cmdrspacebabe OkCupid, oh dear... I never found anyone from there, BUT then one beautiful person found me there, and now we've been married for a few years. :heart_eyes:

But other than them, I didn't get to connect to other people through OkCupid. And I haven't even used it any more.

@Stoori I've found pretty much all the most important people in my life right now on there :p I've been pretty lucky. these days I have it set to No Straight People, which makes it much more peaceful. even if I never meet people in real life, it's nice to have a low-key way to interact with new people without being drained by it like usually happens irl.

@cmdrspacebabe It may just be that the local mindset here in OkCupid is so heavily geared towards dating and sexual/romantic relationships that it won't pay out to even try to find anything else from it.

But it's good if it works better for you. :)

@Stoori yeah, that's definitely how it was when I still talked to straight people on it :p there's a decent number of queer people in my city who use it as more of a networking tool since it's hard to find each other in real life, but it's definitely not really a standard feature of the site.