@gourgou yeah, I dunno if agender is the right word for me - I still feel like I lean in some kind of gender direction rather than just, like, 'no thanks'? I just don't know what it would be

yeah I'm lucky in that I can get away with a lot of gender variance and I doubt anyone will ever call me on it. I'm a thin, conventionally attractive, (mostly) able-bodied, femme-presenting 'woman' (kinda) so like, people will just call me Bold and Interesting and Modern instead of accosting me on the street or whatever.
though on the other hand, it also means they will probably always see me as a girl no matter what I do.