It's just so frustrating to see people complain about the ~q slur~. Like, you literally cannot call yourself something that a homophobic straight person hasn't used as an insult. It doesn't exist. If that's your criteria for naming your identity, you're kind of fucked, because even if you spent a decade picking the exact right words nobody had ever insulted, some dickhead on Reddit would immediately take the piss out of them, sorry.