My mum is pretty adamant that the best way to enjoy a holiday is to figure out what you actually want to do and then... do that, if you can.
I think it genuinely is less stressful to do the unpleasant bits of holidays if you're aware that you've got, like, an audiobook and a long walk planned just for yourself. Idk.
Obviously not everyone can do that, tho. My thoughts go out to ppl who have to do things they don't want in the name of family