hanging out, for business / educational reasons, on a discord channel that is mostly or entirely male and i hate the casual misogyny they feel free to share when they feel sufficiently safe in their ingroup

if i speak up it will just make my experience less pleasant in other ways

and of course their constant myopic assumptions that everyone else is a dude is grating. i am surrounded by blithely self-assured default humans

men can be so tiring

@alyx Yeeeeep. The worst part, for me, is the flip-out when you say "hey I don't like that" - it's like you kicked their dog instead of asking them to adjust their shitty behavior.

@thindol yes, totally

i learned VERY EARLY ON not to voice my objections over other people's micro/aggressions toward me because the reaction is always completely outsized and makes me feel like shit. boats remain unrocked, the status quo persists