a comfortably middle-class acquaintance offered me an extra ticket to a midnight showing of a cool flick i wouldn't mind re-watching. BART will be closed by the time it lets out, so it's already an annoying scenario but whatev, that's SF. guess i'll drive and try to find parking.

let's meet for dinner before i said, as the real reason i'm going is to talk with folks.

but they picked a tapas bar (not really dinner imo) i don't find affordable that's in the worst parking area of the city and over 2 miles from the venue. so that would be finding parking twice for a meal i don't feel affordable.

double fail. weighing options.

@alyx Ugh. It sucks so much trying to keep up with richer pals.

@ikea_femme yeah, it sucks every time

sometimes they offer to pay my way but i find it very hard to say yes to that. even have trouble accepting help from my (much better off) partner atm

@alyx The worst is when they invite you out to something that sounds reasonable, and then it just gets spendier and spendier.

Recently in my life
"Let's go out to this river tubing place on the hudson!" - Great, agreed!

"And then we'll do a barbecue with a bonfire. Throw in for beer?" - I guess I can

"Now that we're already driving there and need to rent a space to cook anyway, let's sleep there. Get a tent and sleeping bag before we leave next week" - Wait, what?

And it's really hard to say no after saying yes several times. Especially for me, since I barely kept any friendships going in my dysphoric pre-transition haze.