@ikea_femme oh, the lady i'm dating (and others she is dating) is also from the SA trans scene. i learned it was a thing through her. i understand some of them have a private fb group here in the bay area. i don't like SA myself (i was friends with fragmaster btw, if you remember him) but it really spawned community.

i had similar experiences romantically. i still feel pretty broken in that area, actually, not very hopeful of finding something that works for me long-term. low/no sex drive is a factor in my case.