@Filene I trailed off and got distracted! Aaaaa!
But my insights, so to speak:

Multi-faceted. Mostly I deal with issues of finality as in... if I move towards what I want to be now, without assigning it something material (like wealthy, etc.), I can be happy even if I were to die, or lose everything.

For instance, no one can take Ulfra from me. She's something with real power. If I were to die, I was still Ulfra.

I"d rather spend 5 short years as Ulfra, than 100000000000 years as (deadname).