@bea @TipsyTentacle heh yeah. it me too.

@bea @TipsyTentacle Works the other way, too. A gay friend once told eggmode me she'd had a confusing crush on me for a while, which made me just bafflingly happy to hear.

@pointers @TipsyTentacle *cough*

YUP

@pointers @bea this never happened within my social circles, but that's interesting to know. :O

@TipsyTentacle @pointers i know..... one? other than us

@bea @TipsyTentacle i know of two other than us and i'm dismally antisocial so knowing three instances makes me feel confident in saying it's a thing

@pointers @TipsyTentacle @bea this was me, except my wife is bi. but yeah. we joke she knew before i did, which is sad and accurate. in the years leading up to figuring it out, i was always like "hmmmm i just feel safer with gays? and most of our friends are lesbians? i am such a good *ally*"

and then after I came out all our friends were like "yeah this makes perfect sense, you were one of us the whole time"

@nergdron @bea @TipsyTentacle @pointers AAAAAAARGH! *raises hand, unable to speak*

@pointers @TipsyTentacle @bea @nergdron A lot of my circles came out in all their various ways after we already knew each other, so it's like we kind of drifted out of cishet space before we realized the scope of what was going on?

@nergdron @pointers @TipsyTentacle yeah that's me and pointers alright she hella knew before i did

@bea @TipsyTentacle @nergdron [ask] me about delving deep into trans discourse in an attempt to alleviate my partner's genderfeels

@pointers @bea @TipsyTentacle I always say that my unconscious had my back, even as my conscious mind was busy repressing and disassociating. moved to the gayest city I could think of, and immediately started dating a bi lady doing a degree in gender studies. like. saved my life probably.