So I just want to be clear about something and get it off of my chest, reading this whole thing about Aziz Ansari.

I've pressured a partner into sex before. Thank god it didn't get far enough to actually go anywhere, and I'm legitimately ashamed of my actions that day.

What I did was wrong. It was colored by a number of misconceptions I had about sex and intimacy stemming from my own abuse and mental illness, but that's no excuse.