Rumpelcita @Rumpelcita@witches.town

@pfq thanks. I'm also glad about it and for some reason Dune, yes Dune, helped a lot with the process of being kind to myself.

@pfq I think that the issue is that there's a lot of pressure about being vulnerable and saying vulnerability is bravery still puts a lot of weight in it. I think that for tons of people vulnerability is not a choice, like you are vulnerable or you have your guard up, but you're not in control.

Maybe if we tried to make feelings talks about being heard without being questioned, a lot of the weight will be lifted from the people in the vulnerable position. Like maybe, feelings are not a puzzle to be solved and understood, feelings are to be felt and let us know things about ourselves.

@pfq my favorite guy from saint seiya was the libra one when he looked like a raisin. I'm lousy with names, so I can't recall.

@pfq my power animals are cats because they soothe me and eagles, because there was an eagle mural at school when I was a kid and it looked so brave and free that I wanted to be like her.

@pfq I have conversations with a part of myself that someone else put in there. That part of me says that I'm insane, broken and unworthy of being loved. That everyone will leave me as soon as they find out. So I tell it to hush, that it's okay because I can love us both.

It's a conversation that happens less frequently over time.

@pacoelayudante @LuzMala yo tengo bocha de frascos, pero ustedes están en la plata D=

@pfq no, it was neutral about them, but adult me knows they're shitty.

@pfq I laugh at really inappropriate things at really inappropriate times.

It breaks my heart how we lack the means to articulate our pain and struggles and ask for help. How there's always this isolation among each other, because when we are in pain we can't reach out and others can't get through and how a lot of our choices boil down to an arithmetic of necessity, because sometimes there's nothing you can do to ease someone else's pain and you have to protect yourself from harm.

@pfq I read at funerals and I get annoyed if I didn't get a chance to say goodbye or if the person I'm mourning wasn't particularly nice and everyone is acting as if they were the best person ever. Like, you should be allowed to vent both the good feelings and the bad.

@pfq my earliest memory is me being at a colorful cobbled street with my parents buying shitty boardgames and all of us being on a boat. I also remember some sort of water vortex. I think one was from Uruguay, the other place was in Córdoba, most likely.

@spiderrobotpig I'm not sure what those logs mean either. What's your nginx version? I had to configure a new non mastodon site using non nginx the other day and I had some issues due to config files moving somewhere new in the latest version. But honestly I'm just bouncing ideas around at this point.

@pixelpaperyarn I guess I never thought about it that way. Maybe you can avoid that by framing it as advice for beginners? It's the best I can think of at the moment.

@pixelpaperyarn why would writing about this put your reputation at risk?

@spiderrobotpig what does the log says?

@LuzMala no sé. Contate algo. ¿Hiciste algo interesante hoy? ¿Hubo muchos gatitos en tu día?

@pfq thank you for your answers <3

Let's talk about #twine. As a coder I find that the way twine handles code is really annoying and I would loudly complain about it to pretty much everyone. Yet as time goes by I have learned how to handle it's limitations and so far it's the only tool I consistently go back to and that allows me to satisfy my instant gratification impulses.

Because I used to be in an oppressive environment where I couldn't express myself and now that I'm out I have so much to say and I'm not scared to do so. It's nice to have a tool that helps me keep my pace for saying the stuff I need to.

@candle my vote goes for susurrus.