@nightpool This is a lovely response and I think you're totally right and I'm boosting it.

@nightpool @Puck The boundary between "standing up for others" and "performative allyship" is pretty blurry, I think.

Like, *somebody* has to tell jerks to stop being jerks, right? And a lot of people don't actually know they're doing a jerky thing, so a quick message might help.

But picking fights in peoples' mentions NEVER works out well.

@Puck @nightpool The only thing I've ever seen work is having some locally authoritative figure pull people aside and say, *privately*, "Hey, that wasn't cool. I deleted it this time, but don't let it happen again."

Saying the same thing to somebody, in public, as a rando without the power to delete/ban, is just picking a fight.

@tobascodagama @nightpool I don't think I've ever heard the phrase "performative allyship" before but it's one of the better phrases I've ever heard. I also agree that in most instances a "call-in" is more valuable than a "call-out"

@Puck @nightpool 100% of the credit goes to black twitter for that phrase. Or that's who I learned it from, at least.