I hate when I read someone else as #trans and I feel guilty for it and try to avoid doing anything to show I've read them that way. I imagine it's mutual.
@ikea_femme I read my doctor as trans and felt really guilty about it - I found out in passing that she is cisgendered in a very specific, definitive way, and ended up super stoked that it turns out wrong reads are possible so individual perceptions aren't weighed down by so much responsibility and duty.
I realize that's a super individual experience and that I probably am not as skilled of a reader but I hope it helps a little.
@Puck yeah, this woman was pretty much cis passing, and the features I read as trans looked really attractive and feminine on her (ie muscular legs and a tall build). It's kind of sad to possibly run into someone like yourself and pretend you can't tell.
I don't think other minorities go through this, but I could be oblivious of something.
@ikea_femme Someone I followed on some media a while ago wrote about seeing a beautiful woman on a train who she could read as trans because of her own experience with "tells"- obviously she didn't say anything, but she wrote about how inspiring and beautiful this woman is with her style and confidence - Her writing conveyed power and beauty in that unspoken possibly mutual knowing. It's most certainly not my lane to declare, but I hope that's a compassionate lens to share