@polychrome No it's not ! Of course ! I'm sorry if what I wrote can be understood that way, I apologize ! You are entirely right, not everybody has the same desires neither the same ways to seek freedom ! Which is actually a wonderful thing that I love to see blossom when I look at people I know.

Also, I also want to add that bdsm and how things goes can vary a lot according to the peple/situations. But indeed, some people will only feel anxious and I am not saying bdsm is a magical thing that solves problems.

I am sorry and I hope you will be alright.