**Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour** @Morgane · 16 jan. 2018, 00:26

**Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour** @Morgane · 16 jan. 2018, 00:26

Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour @Morgane

16 jan. 2018, 00:26

Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour @Morgane

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So yeah, I've been a bit into bdsm. It didn't last for very long, and I'm still kind of a newbie. I had some interesting moments, sadly with not that nice people.

I just wanted to tell, since the music I am listening to reminds me of bdsm. Being restrained by your own will, accepting orders and that human nature isn't what we're told is "the norm" in society. Being tied helps me free myself. Being in subspace is a very good way to deal with the burden of my life, at least for a moment.

The trick sadly is that in my case it's easy to get addicted to it. And it doesn't solve anything. It just helps.

**Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour** @Morgane · 16 jan. 2018, 00:31

**Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour** @Morgane · 16 jan. 2018, 00:31

16 jan. 2018, 00:31

Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour @Morgane

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However, the heavier the burden on one's back, the more cautious one must be.

What's fun with subspace is that you forget everything basically, body feels good and mind has only few focus that are strong enough to erase social weight. In a way.

But it comes with the fact that if you goes out of subspace in a too violent way, or aren't taken care of : it all comes back in a very strong way.

Subs are more fragile than dom' in that regard. But it works basically the same for doms'. To forget the binds of society. In a way that either gets closer to its extreme, or get far from social norms.

**Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour** @Morgane · 2018-01-16T00:36:30Z

Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour @Morgane

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What BDSM taught me, among other things is :

-Society is but a facade, an illusion that people try to follow with all their might in order to get along with others. Society is a link that is created by the need of such a link.

-People follow that illusion, and sometimes realise that what they follow indeed is : an illusion. So they try to find what's true, and that's one of the way some people arrive in the bdsm "community"

-As free as people try to be, or think they are : the bounds of society are too strong and link them to the notions of norms, even when they think they're freed of it.

-In the end, it's neither all dark or light.

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**NyÂme Quantique** @Theno · 16 jan. 2018, 00:42

**NyÂme Quantique** @Theno · 16 jan. 2018, 00:42

16 jan. 2018, 00:42

NyÂme Quantique @Theno

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@Morgane
ty very much for your insights about BDSM and subspace.

**Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour** @Morgane · 16 jan. 2018, 00:43

**Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour** @Morgane · 16 jan. 2018, 00:43

16 jan. 2018, 00:43

Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour @Morgane

Little talk about bdsm Afficher plus

My favorite part of the bdsm is how links between people evolve for a moment. I don't really like the "community" part of the bdsm, which is often elitist and repeat society's norms while trying to avoid looking like it.

It's all different according to partners and it's mandatory to take that into account. I lived both wonderful, frustrating, and horrible moments.

But in my "ideal" relationship : it differs with the partner and paying attention to that partner allows to discover many new things. Which means there is no ideal bdsm relationship. But all of those with attentive people have a chance to blossom beautifully.

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:36

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:36

16 jan. 2018, 11:36

kwendenarmo @kwendenarmo@queer.town

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@Morgane This is starting to get close to my triggers. It is very true that the links that are created can be the best provided by the BDSM. It is also true that there are many very toxic people in those circles.

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:45

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:45

16 jan. 2018, 11:45

kwendenarmo @kwendenarmo@queer.town

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@Morgane I know that we are talking about concrete things, but I need to say that there is not only submission, pain and strings in the BDSM. But I'm not going to say any more because I don't feel good about it.

**Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour** @Morgane · 16 jan. 2018, 11:48

**Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour** @Morgane · 16 jan. 2018, 11:48

16 jan. 2018, 11:48

Morgane, vache-lapine d'amour @Morgane

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@kwendenarmo Sorry for making you uncomfortable. I know well about other things, but said things are also close to my triggers so I avoid talking of them. Even me prefer to talk about things I'm comfortable with.

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:52

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:52

16 jan. 2018, 11:52

kwendenarmo @kwendenarmo@queer.town

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@Morgane Don't worry, like I said, it's a love-fear relationship right now. I like to read about other people's experiences, even if that sometimes triggers me. I'll be all right in a little while. I hope I didn't trigger anybody else's.

Thank you, really!

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:53

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:53

16 jan. 2018, 11:53

kwendenarmo @kwendenarmo@queer.town

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@Morgane Now I have to go talk about my triggers and my shit with the psychologist, I'm already late.

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:33

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:33

16 jan. 2018, 11:33

kwendenarmo @kwendenarmo@queer.town

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@Morgane I have a love-fear relationship with the BDSM. I love it as a sexologist, it excites me personally, there is a great diversity and I always love that. Of course it is not for everyone, but neither is it what the world believes from outside. There are wonderful and liberating things. Of course, in the huge fan there are things we may not like and even reject, but they exist.

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:34

**kwendenarmo** @kwendenarmo@queer.town · 16 jan. 2018, 11:34

16 jan. 2018, 11:34

kwendenarmo @kwendenarmo@queer.town

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@Morgane society is always a mask, hypocritical, self-centered and phobic. Someday (tm) I will write something about the lights of the BDSM