So yeah, I've been a bit into bdsm. It didn't last for very long, and I'm still kind of a newbie. I had some interesting moments, sadly with not that nice people.
I just wanted to tell, since the music I am listening to reminds me of bdsm. Being restrained by your own will, accepting orders and that human nature isn't what we're told is "the norm" in society. Being tied helps me free myself. Being in subspace is a very good way to deal with the burden of my life, at least for a moment.
The trick sadly is that in my case it's easy to get addicted to it. And it doesn't solve anything. It just helps.