@geekylou That's what's happening, and I guess I finally found my own instruction leaflet, so as long as I'm build right now, right enough for me to be able to smile, then life can build itself the way it wants, I guess ? A bit optimistic, but well, yeah, I want to. To go forward, finally. Finally.

@Eve I have met many people telling me so. I have met people starting transition at 70 (or 75, something like that). Some starting it at 14 or 15. And everybody was looking at that young person helped by its parents and felt kinda down.

I... think wishes shall be kept for what's to come. I know life is unfair, if we search fairness in our paths. But... we have one life, what had been lies in the past, what matters is what there is now, and what we can hope and build in the future.

Clumsy way to say that everybody has its own rythm, there is no right or wrong. It takes a time different according to each one's story. What matters is now, and what lies after.

@Morgane not clumsy at all, in fact a beautiful way to say I think. we all have our own lives and our own ways, we all move on our own timelines and get what we need when we need it.

we can all be proud of our pasts and happy about our presents and hopeful and forward-looking in our futures.

love to us all and our future happiness #spell ❤

@Morgane @Eve it does take also take things as fast (this needs empathising because people mostly will want to slow you down) or slow as you feel comfortable.

@Eve @Morgane also one big piece of advice don't let others make you want to change your body unless it feels right for you.

@geekylou @Morgane this is great advice. I've heard from some others with regrets ....

@Eve @Morgane @geekylou acquaintence of mine got GRS because her wife basically pressured her into it, and then left her within a year...........................

@geekylou @Morgane @Eve the pressuring wife, that is :\

@nire @Eve @geekylou :c (I have no words, sadly).

@Morgane @Eve in my experience this was mostly from cis people making you feel undatable if you don't have a certain body configuration.

@geekylou @Eve Haha, I knew of some, but it was the opposite, people wanting me not to get surgery. Well, what they want is of no importance compared to what I need to feel well, in my own body. So I won't rush, even if I could wish for it. I will wait and see how I feel after some more months. And what happens. My whole life is being turned upside-down.

@geekylou @Eve That's what I am planning to do. I wanted the surgery, not for others but for myself. But right now I am a bit hesitating. If I could, there was no risk post-surgery, and that it was free, I would. But it isn't. And I feel a bit more comfortable in my body, enough not to feel the NEED of the vaginoplasty, for now at least. So I'll see what happens and how I feel with time passing. It's all thanks to the recent events, I am glad to be able to feel a bit better in my own body.