called my momo yesterday to discuss visiting for a weekend in April
her: did you dye your hair again?!?
me: nope
her: are you sure? it looks black
me: yeah it's just naturally dark right now
her: you're an adult, I can't judge you if you did...
I swear to god mom it's my natural color I get that you and my dad are super grey now so you can't remember that you're both super brunette I guess.