someone just called me from a medical office and called me "mrs. lastname" and so help me....
@Maenad haha
I'm Mr. Paul Nathan IRL.
Oddly, after I got married, my wife turned into
Mrs. Paul Nathan.
Her firstname is, interestingly enough, not Paul. This turned very fast into a way to offend her. "I HAVE MY OWN NAME. SAY IT.".
@pnathan my mom is the managing partner in my parents' relationship - she does all the finances and house stuff and it pisses her off SO MUCH when she gets called "Mrs. *dad's name*" by people she's basically paying that it's become a dealbreaker for her.
And honestly, this is part of my stance against marriage. I NEVER want my (relationship with my) partner to define me in ANYONE'S estimation.
@Maenad Ugh, I'm sorry. I get that a lot, unfortunately, especially now that I'm getting later into my 30s. There is no end of the number of times it has to ber very forcefully said, "I am not married." And partially, it's just like... this is why Ms was created. Screw you, if you don't know someone's marital status, don't freaking assume. THE NEUTRAL TERM, USE IT. THAT IS WHY IT IS THERE.
it's not like they misgendered me but as an unmarried person with a relatively strong personal stance against marriage I am not a mrs and probably never will be and please don't use that for me especially as you don't need to gender me at all in that conversation (it was "I hope you're having a good day mrs. lastname" which is completely superfluous)