@kara_dreamer I mean there's a larger cultural trend there.
Stories of male partnerships tend to be with other men, and not romantic. (Buddy cop movies are the classic for me, but there are others).
Stories of female partnerships tend to be romantic.
It's fucking disgusting.
That said, I want my life partner to be separate from my work. Science as an all consuming passion is a toxic ideal - it's work, and work life balance is good, and makes you a better scientist. I don't want to do work with my life partner over dinner, I want to relax.
