**Caitlin** @c8rz · 08 fév. 2018, 14:46

**Caitlin** @c8rz · 08 fév. 2018, 14:46

Caitlin @c8rz

08 fév. 2018, 14:46

autism question, long-ish Afficher plus

Sometimes when I talk to my autistic brother he'll answer a question with a ton of sort-of related facts.

Eg:
Me: Mum asked me to sort out your kindle. Is it okay if I touch it?
Him: well you see, the problems with it started last week and... (etc)

He did not tell me if I could touch it.

I find it really confusing, and it makes it a lot harder to help him with his problems.

Is this just a regular autism thing I don't get, or am I phrasing questions wrong, or what?

**Mean Otter now at elekk.xyz** @Lapis · 2018-02-08T15:15:18Z

Mean Otter now at elekk.xyz @Lapis

autism question, long-ish Afficher plus

@c8rz Autie here. I'm usually pretty direct, but I feel the response is understandable, as you are not asking "clearly". I would pick clearer words like "inspect and fix" etc.

I could see reading his response multiple ways.

1. "Yeah, I'm having problems with it, please fix it."
2. "I'm having problems with it, are you sure you want to touch* it right now?"

*touch could be "use", "Fix", etc

Personally, I would assume he's trying to be helpful.

If you do it politely, and possibly gently, asking him straight out for a yes or no answer wouldn't be a problem I think, but I would still try to change how you talk.
Did this help?

08 fév. 2018, 15:15 · 0 · 1

**Caitlin** @c8rz · 08 fév. 2018, 22:29

**Caitlin** @c8rz · 08 fév. 2018, 22:29

08 fév. 2018, 22:29

Caitlin @c8rz

autism question, long-ish Afficher plus

@Lapis that did help, thank you! I know a lot of people with autism find it easier to take things literally, so I tried to phrase it like what I actually intended to do, rather than saying "can I look at it" or something. I'll try and be more precise with my wording in future. :)