for me it's easy to hate myself due to certain things about me that I can't control. But I found that I can circumnavigate some of that self hate and turn it away from myself.
I've come to understand that that the symptoms are things that affect me, and are not apart of me. If you have a cold, you hate the running nose and the congestion. It's silly to hate yourself because your nose is running from a cold.
I found it's the same with depression and ptsd. I hate the lack of energy, the emotional numbness, and how I forgot how to interact with people due to trauma.
I don't hate myself, I hate my illness. My symptoms are not me.