Filene 🌠🌠🌠 @Filene@witches.town

@Hiraelle you read my mind! Ack, now I gotta find time and money to spare..

@Luuhann Hi! I'm about to head to bed, but I'd like to speak my thoughts while skimming your hexes:

A) Could you please reply to your own messages, if it's part of one long thought? It helps all of us see the entire conversation when we seek to join in.

B) What are your labels? In other words, how do you describe yourself? Some of the things you've said I would expect to hear from pansexual, panromantics, asexuals, aromantics, sapiosexuals, or sapioromantics. Specifically, those identifiers tend to say their intimacies are universally similar (open to all/any or none/rarely) or depends upon minds, not genders & sex

3. You heard of intersectional feminism?

Writing my witchcraft book wasnt as rewarding as I'd have hoped, even if I felt like I made some conceptual progress. I really don't want it to turn into a stream of consciousness philosophical discussion, I really want the practical takeaways to be evident. Maybe I need more structure..

I haven't begun getting things done this afternoon, yet. I got a new webhost for my web portfolio, though I gotta step it up and make a new one for my graphic design.. I'd rather employment there, or with writing.
Chilling before getting to the chores, or doing them after my afternoon trip. Maybe I can get ahead in writing now, anyways..

@yaymukund same here, my witches.town Mastodon jumps tabs almost at will..

@Ulfra_Wolfe grieving, mourning, outreach to friends.. When you trust someone who gets intimately close to you, and they take advantage of this to hurt you, it's traumatic.. And while I wasn't there, I'd argue this trauma is from abuse, and so it takes a while to heal and trust again. :x

@guerrillarain this is great advice, @guerrillarain O.O. Would a normal hair straightener work, or must it be for wigs?

Thank you!!

@guerrillarain could you advise a good starting tutorial for wig care? I have some that just aren't as smooth, now, and lost their sheen and style.. :x

I know, at best, how to wash my wigs. I think I brushed the curls out of one until I heard to make short strokes instead of big ones..

@ikea_femme There's so much going on in your hex. I worry you might be misled without some words.

1. "Truscum" reflects folk who think all transgender folk need to have the same experience, including gender dysphoria, or else they aren't transgender.

2. Abuse is transparent. In many cases, folk in group therapy realize how they have been abused by hearing similar tales from their mates, and witnessing the emotions from that confession. Abuse is so insidious that it comes in many forms, and can be normalized into invisibility with each.

Finally, I live in a largely transphobic culture. This has aspects of abuse as well.

@punsandpotions Definitely enchanting. :D 👏👏

@roadrunner 👏👏🌠🌠 Beauty + Cutie!

@kara_dreamer that is pretty sweet. :3

@kara_dreamer What happened for you can never be as revelatory for us, much like our own experiences. Yet, I'm grateful you shared yours. I might want to share mine when I can reassess and reaccess it in the same capacity. I don't have the trip reports I wrote handy, of the visions related to my own growth in question.

@kara_dreamer Wow, I knew I had aversions to my own beard hair, never letting stubble get past my only comforting defense: an electric razor, as I was afraid of bringing blades near my face as well..

@Kamillion I totally feel what you do, but worse when it comes from strangers. There's no strict interpretation of what to do when a smitten stranger is busy saying, "You're beautiful."

Are they saying to take advantage of their fascination? Are they hoping I value myself upon their admiration? Are they thinking my beauty is so unexpected that I have to fascinate myself with this stranger's emotions? And so on...

@Kamillion I don't think you're mistaken in this. If your beauty was universal, nothing would have convinced you otherwise. It's like what I've read about parents complimenting features that they read into their children, instead of expressing regard for their behavior. A kid doesn't know how they "are smart" any more than you understand what aesthetic of yours your associate called beautiful. But if they said, "the way you swished your hair caught my eye," or "you grinned just enough to make my mind go wild," it might be empowering you to hear how your beauty has captivated one.
(I think what I read regarding parenting was about inspiring growth mentality)