@Ulfra_Wolfe I guess this is more likely about past lives, or possibly about surrendering virtues upon a condition that merely changed You without providing a greater understanding of it or other virtues. So I'm worried I've failed at understanding how I might best have helped.

I've had people control me through my virtues, and I've had the similar by having a virtue's meaning twisted. I've read that the result of being with a psychopath who projects themselves onto you is that, even after you escape their gaslighting and abuse, that you learned to doubt the intentions and resulting actions behind your behavior.