@Ulfra_Wolfe are you suggesting "fake it until you make it" is a credo you're following?
I recently felt that way to become the witch and person I wanted to be, but it's not the full story. Joining this Mastodon is the first and biggest step I've taken in socializing myself as a witch instead of merely in my Practice. Recognizing what you need to begin embodying Your Self is a step in becoming it, but only reveals itself as you hone the art of Your Self.
One more thing. I think I read from Queer Theory, is an epiphany I realized a bit ago; that Your Self is an emergent identity, blossoming from circumstance.