クルド語の学生 @Concerned_Catgirl@witches.town

The outfit I'm still not super sure about (cw: eye contact, selfie)

Can we stop, for a second, and talk about how EXHAUSTING it is for the women (and enbies) in your life, doing your emotional labor, for you to argue that the societal phenomenon that foists that labor on them doesn't exist? Or that you are somehow exempt form it?

I am not saying you're the cause of the problem - I know you're not.

But come to the table so we can talk about how to fix it. And in the meantime, don't assume the women in your life will magically fill the holes that society never told you to fill.

Here's the problem - you expected girls (including me) to be your manic pixie dream girl. You put off doing any sort of emotional labor and assumed the women in your life would do it for you.

And sometimes, they did.

In the meantime, you got STEM degrees, and thought that what you had to contribute to your partners came from your homemaking ability.

THIS IS TOXIC MASCULINITY. It hurts you, too.

Now, you say things like "not all men", and talk about how you, and your friends, were the exception to the rule.

You weren't.

Oh god, you weren't.

Dear boys I knew in college -

For the most part, you weren't rapey (surprising, because you were a group of nerd boys). Occasionally you'd touch me uninvited but for the most part, you stopped when asked. You'd call each other out and hold each other to a better standard.

But it seemed, as a rule, that you were waiting for a girl to come in and change your life for the better. You'd eat junk. You'd avoid making plans. Until a girl came in and changed that. In the meantime, you were bitter that the girls around you didn't choose you.

I'd like to chat with women who have chronic pain and have gone through a pregnancy or several, while also having chronic pain.

Because I have a lot of worries, and no I'm not pregnant, but I keep thinking "I shouldn't get pregnant, because i have chronic pain".

Feel free to boost to help me get in touch with someone here in the fediverse!

so the other day there was a thing on my facebook about how most self care is - well, they used the word "ugly", but I try not to use that word, but "unglamorous". That is, despite instagram, self-care doesn't mean baths with pretty bath bombs and flowers and candles in teh background.

This morning it seems a lot of my friends are having a tough time.

So can we have a thread about the every day things we do to care for ourselves? In part to inspire/remind friends of ways to care for themselves?

"In short, the users clicked a button authorizing their data to be used for research, so they knew what they were getting into and that single personality quiz they took between 2007 and 2012 and long forgot about entitles researchers a decade later to continue to use their information for a publication in 2017."

"[I]t emerged that they [Facebook researchers] had been conducting secret research on more than 6.4 million Australian youth as young as 14 years old to determine when they were at their most vulnerable, experiencing feelings of being “worthless” or a “failure” in order to better target them for advertisers"

Have you read about what's happening in Austin?

This is straight up domestic terrorism which usually means an angry white guy attacking people he doesn't like.

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2018/mar/19/austin-texas-injured-fourth-explosion-hit-city-month

POOPTOOT LESBIAN is always watching during cutscenes! CREEPY!