because both are millennials who spend way too much time on 420 Chan, both my older brother and my cousin brought up the word trap when I came out to them. After explaining to my cousin about the implications of the term, he said he understood how it could come off as insulting. He never brought the word up again in that context. Having the same talk with my brother, that only confused him and had him double down because "trap" is exactly what he thinks trans people are.