@alyx While it's true that to take things personally is painful, there are moments when one can't help but to do so, even if it wasn't anything personal.

In my experience, to allow myself to take something personally and to feel pain, is less painful than to not allow myself to take this something personally and to feel the pain when it's happening anyways. And by allowing it, I find I can handle it better and to make my pain go away quicker.

This is of course my experience, and for other people it could be different. :)